It was 3 years ago this month that my best friend moved.
When we talk on the phone, or on Skype, or on Xbox Live, it feels like yesterday.
On days like today, when it’s been a while since we’ve had a chance to talk, it feels like it’s been forever.
Since my best friend moved, I’ve had 2 other very close friends move away also.
Now when I say they’ve all moved away, I don’t mean to just another city. I mean my best friend is now the closest of the 3 and he lives over 700 miles away (and one is now in Hawaii). So it’s not like I can just get in the car and go see them for a day.
What is kind of funny is that at the time that they were moving it seemed like it was the easiest to say goodbye to my best friend.
Maybe that’s because he was moving for college and I figured once he graduated he’d move back. Maybe it was because I knew he was moving because he felt like God was telling him that’s what he needed to do. Or maybe it was because I didn’t know how hard it would be, how much I would miss him, until after he was gone.
3 years later, and it’s not any easier.
Don’t get me wrong, I couldn’t be more proud of him.
For taking a step of faith, for trusting that God knew what He was doing when He told him to move, and, of course, for graduating.
But that doesn’t make it any easier either.
I’m 25 years old and we’ve been best friends for at least 12 years; that’s almost half my life.
Honestly, it doesn’t even feel appropriate anymore to call him my best friend because, the truth is, he is more like my brother [from another mother, haha]. Seriously though, from the time we became friends up until I got married, we would hang out almost every day. Throughout high school he probably ate dinner at my house more than at his own house. He was, and still is, a part of our family.
To be honest, I’m not even sure why I am feeling this way today, there is nothing significant about today, it’s just another day.
For some reason, though, he’s been on my mind.
What is hard for me as I write this is thinking about the type of friend I have been. I think, before he moved, I took him for granted. I guess I figured he would always be there.
Even now that he isn’t here, I think it is easy for me to just put him on the back burner and not make it a priority to call him, or text him, even just to see how he’s doing. I think I forget sometimes that he doesn’t really have anybody there, other than his fiance. Sure he’s got friends that he has made there, but he doesn’t have any family, or anything like that, there. And I think that I probably underestimate how hard that would be.
Maybe that’s why I am feeling this way; because I’ve never really taken the time to think about what it must have been like to move to a place you’ve never really been, where you don’t know anybody, to move in with people you’ve never met, and to try and make new friends, all while going to school and working full-time.
It’s funny because I would have trouble doing one of those things, let alone all of them. That’s not to say it has been easy for him, I’m sure it hasn’t been, but that’s the type of person he is. I’ve never met anybody who has spent time with him (not like at work or something like that, I mean just hanging out) that didn’t like him.
I guess today I’m just thinking about him. Thinking about all of the memories we have together [like going to Mexico together this past year]. Thinking about all the memories we have yet to make [hopefully going back to Mexico]. And just thinking about how much I appreciate him. Thinking about Proverbs 18:24 that says, “There are friends who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.”
I have so much more that I could say about him, but it would take days to write it all out [and they wouldn’t want to read it anyway]. So I’ll just say, if you’re reading this, I love you, man.
One thing I was going to write about that I decided not to is our favorite show “Scrubs.” If you’ve ever watched that show, it has a pretty good image of what our friendship looks like (between JD and Turk). Like I said I was going to write more about that but I think instead I’ll just let a video do the talking (sorry it’s just a link, apparently I have to pay extra if I want to embed videos).
If you’ve got a friend like this, that maybe it’s been a while since you’ve talked. I want to encourage you, call them today, they’ll be glad to hear from you.
Thanks for reading, until next time.